He Said She Said Series #9
Sex on the 1st Date
By Mike Reid & Bianca Teixeira Feat. Vita Chambers
Today on 'He Said She Said Series', Vita Chambers sits in for Bianca in a video response, but Mike and Bianca still give their two cents below. This series regularly features Mike Reid and Bianca Teixeira as they answer readers' questions about relationships, style and everything in between. They've written together for various Canadian publications and now they're back at it, answering your questions at Good Read Magazine.
Sex on the first date. What does everyone really think about it?
Mike: Why is this even a question? Sex is for marriage and... HAHAHA! Sorry. You saw what I thought. There is no magic number for things to happen. People who have rules about magic times or days until something can happen are rigid, inflexible and boring. Don't get me wrong, you can decide not to sleep with someone you just met, that's fine. But having a '# day rule' for sex, means you're not willing to allow natural chemistry to play into our engagement.
Bianca: I'm not sure when people decided that it was only acceptable to get laid after the 3-5 date mark. It's funny that people think a guy will ditch a girl immediately if she dares sleep with him on the first date. What exactly is to stop him from dumping you after third or fourth date sex? If that's all he's out for then he'll get it and leave regardless. But you're both adults. So what if he leaves you right after? He was obviously an asshat and at least you got good (hopefully) sex out of it. On the other hand, if you're on a first date with someone and it's clear that you're both vibing and you want to get closer, do it! Dates be damned!
Send your questions to firstname.lastname@example.org with the Subject: '#HSSS', and we'll try to get them answered by Bianca and Mike. (Please note, not all questions are answered and/or published.)