He Said She Said Series #6
Today on 'He Said She Said Series' you get video and written advice. This series features Mike Reid and Bianca Teixeira as they answer readers' questions about relationships, style and everything in between. They've written together for various Canadian publications and started a video series by the same name. Now they're back at it, answering your questions at Good Read Magazine.
(Different person, similar question)
I want to ask my girlfriend to watch porn with me, but I think it'll be super awkward. Will she take offense to the request? I don't know. Help! - awkward Richard
Mike: Ah, the age-old question! My first instinct would simply be to ask. "Hey babes, like any red blooded man (or woman), I get in the mood with great porn. Let's look for some cool stuff together." If you don’t think that's the best strategy, it all depends on your partner (So I hope you've been paying attention to what she's into.). Is she a romantic/intimate type or a passionate/aggressive type? Then do your homework with rated R movies with great sex scenes, and find something you think SHE will be into. Then just watch it together; say your friend Mike suggested the movie. Initiate during the hot scene you already know is coming up. If all goes well, upgrade to naughtier movies.
Bianca: Whatever you do, don't bring it up randomly in the middle of a sack session. Having you suddenly call out "Hey, let's watch porn!" will send your girlfriend into a panic thinking it was something she did that made you decide porn is the only thing that will spice up your sex. Instead, have a non-sexual sit down and have a real conversation about turn ons and offs and whether or not your girlfriend even WANTS to watch porn with you. Find out her specifics and what kind will make her hot and which will horrify her. If she's not into it and never will be then shut up and just watch it on your own time.
Send your questions to firstname.lastname@example.org with the Subject: '#HSSS', and we'll try to get them answered by Bianca and Mike. (Please note, not all questions are answered and/or published.)