He Said She Said Series #5
The 'He Said She Said Series' is back! This series features Mike Reid and Bianca Teixeira as they answer readers' questions about relationships, style and everything in between. They've written together for various Canadian publications and last year started a video series by the same name. Now they're back at it, answering your questions at Good Read Magazine.
I’m dating someone my friends don’t like. I keep telling them that they don’t know the real him. How can I make them get along? – Kumbaya
Mike: Have you ever had a friend who was dating a shitty guy or girl? And the group (of friends) had no idea why that friend was being so stupid and dating such a dumb/annoying/bitchy/ignorant/crappy/asshole person? And then your friend FINALLY broke up with that person, they were eventually happier and wondered why they were ever with that person in the first place? And you just shook your head thinking, "You idiot we all told you"? Don't be the idiot who continues to ignore all the signs. If YOUR FRIENDS (the people you love and trust) don't like someone, it's because they see something you're ignoring or are blind to. Why would the real him be a worse person around your friends? Wouldn't he be a great person with you and the other people you care about?
Bianca: Sometimes you just can't get people to get along. Maybe they'll never like him because they see something in him that they distrust. I feel like I can guarantee that your friends are just looking out for you and aren't trying to be malicious about it. And you're right, they don't know him like you do so instead of always trying to explain his attributes, have a big group dinner where everyone can get better acquainted. Give your man cheat notes about things that are happening in your friends' lives so he can inquire. But be prepared for the outcome, you can't always stack the deck, they might like him even less after a night out.
Does anyone believe in waiting until marriage to have sex anymore? - Mr. Flanders
Mike: Yes, crazy people.
Bianca: I think what Mike means (you're welcome bud) is that everyone has their own beliefs and moral compass to do (or not do) what they like before marriage. It's become almost commonplace for people to throw it down (did the kids ever call it that?) before you take a trip down the aisle but you can definitely still find those who want to have their v-cards on the ready for their wedding night. If you're doing so Mr. Flanders, don't think that you're alone in it. Just realize that most people want to take the car for a test drive before committing to a contract. Y'know?
Send your questions to firstname.lastname@example.org with the Subject: '#HSSS', and we'll try to get them answered by Bianca and Mike. (Please note, not all questions are answered and/or published.)
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