He Said She Said Series #3
Dating without conversation + Bad shoe choices.
By Mike Reid & Bianca Teixeira
The 'He Said She Said Series' is back! This series features Mike Reid and Bianca Teixeira as they answer readers' questions about relationships, style and everything in between. They've written together for various Canadian publications and last year started a video series by the same name. Now they're back at it, answering your questions at Good Read Magazine.
I’m single again after a 5-year relationship and I’ve noticed guys just text to ask me out. Why don’t people call anymore? Texting is not romantic. – Dial Tone
Mike: Simple, it’s the progression of technology, and the decline of communication. Welcome to the era of mobile dating apps! With Tinder I judge you instantly with a left or right swipe. People don’t even exchange names anymore, it’s already on the screen. If you get my number it means I want to text outside of an app, not talk to you.
We can talk when we have coffee, go for drinks or hook-up in your office boardroom, those are perfect times for a conversation. However, free advice to my dudes: CALL HER! Most guys only text or use apps, so think about it: “If you call her, you stand out from the pack.” I know we all hate talking on the phone, but a 10-15 minute conversation can make the difference between: “The dude who texts me to hook-up.” and “The guys who calls to make plans.”
Bianca: I agree, texting is not romantic. How can something that makes sending dick pics easy be romantic?! While seemingly faster and easier, texting makes rejection smoother. You can tell someone you’re not attracted to them and not having to look into their heartbroken eyes, you can laugh off an unreciprocated ‘I love you’ by saying it was an autocorrect snafu, and you can ask someone out and not have to listen to them breathing while they consider the pros and cons. Because THAT is real life. Nothing romantic about it.
Why do women wear shoes that don't fit? - Claw Toes
Mike: It all comes down to one thing: Lying. Women may get upset at men for lying about big things or little things. But the truth is, women lie to themselves more than any man could ever lie to them. If you were a size 6 in high school, there’s a good chance you’ve grown since then. Stop stuffing your feet into ill fitting shoes and then complaining about how much your feet hurt! That’s like… stuffing your feet into something too small and then complaining about it! Plus, when you’re gripping the front of your open toe shoes like an eagle’s talons with prey, it’s not cute, it scares me.
Bianca: Sorry Mike but that's not always the case. Sometimes Claw Toes, it's just about what you can get and for how much. My own shoe closet has sizes that range from 5 to 8 simply because I don't like to walk away from a shoe sale empty handed. Or because someone in my office got a free pair of shoes and couldn't walk in a size larger than she wears. Or because when I wear panty hose, I can slip into a shoe that's a whole size smaller than I wear. There are a list of reasons why some women feel the need to pinch their toes or stuff their shoes just to get into something that doesn't fit properly. My main point is: Never you mind!
Send your questions to firstname.lastname@example.org with the Subject: '#HSSS', and we'll try to get them answered by Bianca and Mike. (Please note, not all questions are answered and/or published.)
* Thumbnail image by Jan Vašek